Dear Non-Accidental Readers,

Have you ever been in a car accident?  Hopefully not.  If yes, then when was the last time that you were in a car accident? How did you respond or react?


At the age of 15, my dad bought me a used brown Honda Civic. My best friend, Victoria, and I headed to a football game. When we left the game, I was rear-ended by a drunk driver. When Victoria and I exited the vehicle, I thought the adjacent, yellow school bus hit me. The driver of the school bus pointed that my car skidded an entire block. The actual driver that hit me was a block away! Thankfully, we were alive but endured physical pain and endless physical therapy.

Thirty years later, my second accident.


Gabriel and I enjoyed our day. We stopped at a red light. A lady rear-ended me. Gabriel yelled, “Mom what was that?” I assured, “We’re okay. We were hit.”

I exited my vehicle and was swiftly reminded of a conversation. Earlier in the day, a friend and I discussed love.

I shared, “Your power, my power, our power is spreading love. The more we let go of the entanglements, ensnarements, and encumberments… The brighter light we will be. Get your shine on.”

When I exited my vehicle and approached the lady in the other vehicle, it was an opportunity to spread love and that is exactly what I chose to do and what I chose to see. I shook her hand and introduced myself. I shared, “Well nice to meet you. We were meant to meet today.” Of course, she was apologetic. But I didn’t see my car… I didn’t see her car. I saw a person. And this person had a name, Mary Katherine.

When was the last time you were in a car accident?

How did you respond? “Shit” or “This is an opportunity to spread love.”

What did you learn about yourself or the situation when a crash takes place?

Sometimes car accidents are meant to stop us in our tracks. They are meant to evaluate how we are doing in life. They are meant as a destined moment to share love. We don’t need to complain and yell, “Oh shit.” But we can look the other person in the eyes and introduce ourselves. We can genuinely express, “Nice to meet you. We were meant to meet today.”

Don’t let any moment rob you of your joy.

Get your shine on and spread love. Love is the only thing that remains.

Shining and Spreading Love,